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The mini skirt really is an amazing item in any women's clothing. It is something that you will hardly miss in any woman's wardrobe. And yet if the mini was a guy who had to have a nick name, there is only one nick name that would really fit, and that is "the come back kid."

Why the come back kid? Well for the uninformed the mini has made just too many amazing come backs, such that were a biography to be written (I am almost sure one has already been written) it would be much more interesting and captivating than most biographies of real human beings that I have read. And believe me, I have read many.

From the liberating (or is it swinging) sixties, to the nineties and on to the present new millennium, the mini skirt has come, and then gone as if forever, only to suddenly re-emerge bigger (opps I meant smaller. shorter) and better than before.

But there is a side of the mini skirt piece of clothing that has hardly been discussed. It is not too difficult to guess why nobody wants to discuss it. There is a real and justified fear of offending lots of people. But then the truth does that lots of times. Does it not? So let us just go ahead and discuss it. My apologies to anybody that I may offend but my view has always been that knowledge is priceless even when it may offend.

What do men feel and think when they see a pretty woman in a mini skirt? If you are a woman and you think that the answer to this question is obvious, please read on, you are in for a few surprises. Of the nasty kind, I dare add.

I remember the time when I used to feel good at the stares my wife got when she was in a nice mini skirt that really showed off her shapely legs nicely. I would walk right next to her, holding her hands.

"Eat out your hearts out folks, she's mine, and mine alone," I would say to myself.

The whole episode really gave me a kick. Especially looking at some of the guys who literally had saliva dripping from the sides of their wide open mouths as they stared, their eyes almost popping clean out of their sockets.

Alas, that was 25 years ago and although my wife's legs are still in great shape (believe me she would get exactly the same reaction today), she no longer dresses the way she used to in those days. Let us just say that we have both learnt a lot about this life and provocative clothes for women and what they really mean.

A lot of the stuff we now know is best left out of this article. But let us start with one truth.

Women's clothes evoke certain feelings in men. I often wonder if women are fully aware of the exact nature and magnitude of these feelings. Many times most of them barely see beyond the vague comments and what they think they already know.

Pardon me for being blunt, but I do not know any other way of saying this. When a man looks at a woman provocatively dressed, or dressed in some mini skirt that leaves very little to the imagination, there is only one thought going through their minds at that moment. And that is Sex. They do not think that the woman is pretty or has nice girls that are better than those of so and so. And neither are they interested in that at this point in time. The animal instincts in them just takes over and viciously crowds everything else out.

I have a feeling that most women do not fully realize this for the simple reason that most men close to them never tell them the truth. Or rather they do not tell it bluntly enough, so that it is fully understood with all the implications that go with it.

Let us examine some of the comments that a nice lady dressed in this manner will quite often get.

"Oh you look sexy." Is a common comment. In modern English that means that they look attractive and desirable. That's exactly what every clothes designer on the planet tries to do with their clothes for women and therefore this is the sort of comment that will hardly sound of any alarms.

"You look ravishing." I sincerely wonder what exactly that means and I wonder how women take such a comment with a straight face in this day and age of women's lib.

"You look gorgeous." Now I will not bother to make any comment about this one. It is just totally off the mark and yet it could be the most common in such situations. How sad.

All in all these comments say nothing about what is really going in the man's brains.

It is true that women are very much aware of the sexual thing in men when they dress like this and many times they deliberately provoke it because it comes naturally to some of them to do so (no offence intended). Women were created to turn heads, just like men were created to scratch certain unmentionable parts of their bodies at the most inappropriate time. Or in the most unhygienic and unhealthy way.

But the more worrying factor here is that more often than not, women do not realize that men hardly have the ability to admire nice legs without thinking about sex, like women can easily and effortlessly do. Women actually forget that men are very different from them.

There is a bunch of old fashioned folks who claim that provocative dressing encourages and often triggers violent rape. I do not believe that I am old fashioned, but the truth is that after years of experience and of witnessing and hearing about dozens of incidents, I have no option but to agree with this view.

The proof comes from the way men think and are turned on. Why is it that we all forget too often the fact that men are very different from woman in their thinking? A husband having a shower will easily get turned on seeing his naked wife troop by, even on a hectic morning when both are trying to get to work on time. That would hardly ever happen to a woman.

Now just think of a man in a situation where a woman troops by fully dressed but so revealingly so that the guy can easily undress her right there in his mind? Naturally his animal instincts will completely take over and if the situation is such that they think that they may just be able to get away with rape, then most men would not think twice about it. They would let the animal in them completely take over.

Sorry, but that is the truth, blunt as it is.

But maybe it will make you feel better to know that I am still fighting a battle with my 23 year old daughter to stop wearing dresses that are short enough to pass for mini skirts.